Why you should live in the present!

“If you are at peace, you are living in the present. If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future.” ~ Lao Tzu

Why you should live in the present!

You’ve heard if before: Forget the past! You can’t change it. The past is not equal to the future.

Yet it is sometimes so difficult for many of us to let go of the past. You build your future by living in the present. NOW is when you create your future.

What does it mean to live in the present?  To live fully in the present moment, your awareness is completely focused on the here and now. Be grateful for what you have. If you are living in the present, you are living in acceptance. Accept what is. Let go of the past.

“Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness.” ~ James Thurber

Wherever you are, be there to the fullest. Be aware of your surroundings and make the best out of it. By truly living in the present, you feel happier and are more energized and focused. Being present is undoubtedly the only way to live life to the fullest. The secret for health for both mind and body is yo live in the present moment to the fullest. Not to mourn about the past or to worry about the future.

“If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.” ~ Roy Bennett

Life unfolds in the present. The past was, and the future will be, but the present is all that ever is. NOW is the moment of power, where all decisions are made, all emotions are felt, all life is lived. Give the present the attention it deserves.

The past and future are illusions, they don’t exist. How often are you worrying about things that are yet to happen, or probably will never happen.  How often do you beat up yourself for past mistakes no matter how much time has passed. Answer, too much. If you are living in present you are living in acceptance.

If you want to change your life, the only place you can do it is in the present. Dream about the future, but work hard today. Dream big. Set goals and plans for the future. But working hard today is always is always the first step towards realizing your dreams tomorrow. Don’t allow dreaming about tomorrow to replace living in today.

The past and the future tend to steal our attention away from the present. We become mentally absent, on autopilot, forgetting to experience what’s happening right here and now. By living in the present you’ll feel fewer negative emotions and more positive emotions.

How can you be more present? Through awareness, acceptance and involvement – surrender to whatever the moment brings.

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The Formula That puts You in Control of Success

October 21, 2014 by Jack Canfield

What prevents you from achieving the success you want?

Is it lack of money, free time, or opportunities at work? Have you not achieved your goals because of the economy, what your business colleagues have done (or not done), or the lack of motivation among your employees? Perhaps you place the blame on how you were raised or on you family for not giving you the proper amount and type of support.

If you responded to my question with a laundry list of reasons why you aren’t where you want to be, you’re not alone. Most people automatically find excuses and blame others when things don’t work out the way they want. This seems to be particularly true in the Unites States, where many people buy into the myth  that we are entitled to success and happiness – that someone else should be giving us what we want.

However, if unlimited success is your goal, looking outside of yourself is a strategic error. The most important lesson you must understand that you are 100 percent responsible for your life – the good and the bad.

The formula I like to use to explain this is:

E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome)

The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life (whether it’s success or failure, wealth or poverty, wellness or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event in your life. Likewise, if you want to change the results you get in the future, you most change how you respond to events in your life … starting today.

WHAT MOST PEOPLE DO

When people don’t like the outcomes they are experiencing, most choose to blame the event (E) for their lack of results (O).

In other words, you can blame the economy, the weather, the lack of money, lack of education, racism, gender bias, the current administration in Washington, your wife or husband, your boss’s attitude, the lack of support , and so on.  If you’re a golfer, you’ve probably even blamed your clubs or the course you’ve played on – but never yourself. This is what most people do.

It’s that these factors exist and that they impact you. However, if they were the deciding factor in whether someone succeeded or not, nobody would ever succeed. For every reason it’s not possible, there are hundreds of people who have faced the same circumstances and succeeded.

The deciding factor in success is not the external conditions and circumstances. It’s how you choose to respond (R).

We think limiting thoughts and engage in self-defeating behaviours. We defend our self-destructive habits (such as drinking and smoking) with indefensible logic.

We ignore useful feedback, fail to continuously educate ourselves and learn new skills, waste time on the trivial aspects of our lives, engage in idle gossip, eat unhealthy food, fail to exercise, spend more than we make, fail to tell the truth, don’t ask for what we want, and then wonder why our lives aren’t working.

WHAT SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE DO

Successful people take a different  approach to events. They simply change their responses (R) to the events (E) until they get the outcomes (O) they want.

You can change your thinking, change your communication, change the pictures you hold in your head (your images of the world) and you can change your behaviour (the things you do). That’s all you really have control over anyway.

Unfortunately, most of us being run by our habits. We get stuck in conditioned responses to our spouses and children, to our work colleagues, to our customers and our clients, to our students, and to the world at large.

You have to gain control of your thoughts, your images, your dreams, daydreams, and your behaviour. Everything you think, say, and do need to become intentional and aligned with your purpose, your values, and your goals.

If you don’t like your outcomes, change your responses.

THE FORMULA IN ACTION

You don’t have to look far to find examples of how this works: consider the economy.

When the Gulf War broke out, a friend of mine who owns a Lexus dealership in Southern California turned to this formula to guide him through the resulting impact on the economy. People stopped coming in to buy Lexuses, so he knew that his normal response (R) of running newspaper and radio ads wouldn’t be good enough to keep his business afloat. The outcome (O) he was experiencing was a steady decrease of visitors to his showroom, as well as sales.

So they tried a number of new things. Some didn’t work; some did. One of the strategies that worked was driving a fleet of new cars to where the rich people were – the country clubs, the marinas, polo grounds, parties in Beverly Hills and Westlake Village – and inviting them to take a test drive.

Have you ever test-driven a new car and then gotten back into your old car? Suddenly your old car wasn’t good enough – you wanted the new car! The same thing happened for the people who took a Lexus for a spin, and many bought or leased a new car.

By changing their response (R) to an unexpected event (E) – the war – the dealership eventually got the outcome (O) they wanted … Increased sales. In fact, they ended up selling more new cars per week than before the war broke out.

If we all experience the same event, the outcome you get will be totally dependent upon your response to the situation.

Carefully choose how you respond to events – how you choose to interpret events, how you choose to think about and talk about what happened, how you choose to act — If you want to achieve better outcomes. Remember, you control your destiny … So make it a fantastic one!

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Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, id founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul®and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: http://www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

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Never give up!

This is a about why you should never give up. The finishing line might be right ahead of you.

Running Track Finish Line Stock Photo

We had recently moved to London (we’d been there for less than a year) when the school my son Chris attended arranged for their annual track and field day. Each student had to sign up to participate in their event of choice. On the way to school that morning I asked Chris what event he was going to participate in. He said was going to run the 1,200 meter race (3/4 of a mile). I didn’t think much of it then, other than it sounded an awful long race for an eight year old boy.

We arrived a bit early, although Chris’ race was not until later that morning. It was a beautiful sunny day and we spent the morning watching the other events.

Then the time came when Chris had to get ready for his event. He was warming up for a little bit and slowly the racers lined up to get ready for their run. I then noticed that the other students were a bit taller and older than Chris.

The race started and by my surprise Chris sprinted immediately to the front. It was like he was thinking “I’m gonna win this race”. However, it didn’t take long until he started to drop back in the field. He kept pace with the other students for about a lap (the race was three laps) and then slowly started to fall off the pace with the others.

During the second lap he fell further behind but kept on going. I could see now he was really struggling and was in some pain. I was standing by the track and cheering him on. Then I suddenly noticed his teacher was running on the sideline next to him trying to stop Chris from continuing the race. I saw Chris was shaking his head several times to his teacher and kept on going despite showing signs of pain and dropping further behind in the race.

Now the other parents was noticing what was going on, seeing the teacher chasing Chris on the sideline. They all stood up starting clapping their hands and cheering for Chris. Somehow Chris noticed this because it worked like an injection of energy to him. On the final 100 meters he started to accelerate in an attempt to sprint towards the finishing line. He wanted to give it all in front of the cheering parents. Even the teacher was now cheering him on to get to the finishing line.

You could see in Chris’ face that he was determine to finish even though the other runners had already finished the race. I was waiting for him at the finishing line and when he crossed the line his body fell into my arms like he was suddenly life less.

He was gasping for air. He couldn’t stand up for himself and couldn’t say a word for several minutes. It was then the teacher came over to me and said he tried to stop Chris from continuing the race when he discovered the “mistake”. You see, Chris was not suppose to participate in this race. It was for twelve years up only. It was too long of a race for an eight year old boy.

Chris finally started to get his breath back and was able to have some water. As he started to slowly move around again, and everybody saw that he was ok, they started cheering again. Parents, students and teachers alike. And would you believe, he then started to take a victory lap in front of everybody cheering. Because in his mind, he won the race. He won the race against himself. He crossed the finishing line. HE NEVER GAVE UP! He was determined to finish. That was a life lesson never to be forgotten. Never give up. The finishing line is just ahead of you.

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